Are you for real or fake???

               
                                 
                                               

In recent times, some people argue that most individuals act fake or are not genuine. This is because they feel that people put forth an unreal personae when dealing with other individuals. This characteristics is often associated with female folk.

Can people always be themselves? By this I mean the normal state at which you perform your daily  activities portraying no “fakeness”? My answer to that question is No. Am sure you are wondering why I said so and I will explain it to you in a bit.

The reason I say so, is because as human beings we are flexible and can act in different ways because we are not programmed robots. Oftentimes our mood influences our behaviour. Sometimes when am not happy I withdraw within myself and can often be lost in deep thought, it even gets to the extent where it affects the way I dress, the way I speak or even the way I relate to people.

This could also be the reason why “selfies” are popular these days. This is because we can put our best foot forward and show our best side in the form of pictures before we go on to upload them on Social media platforms like Facebook, Twitter and Instagram.

In situations like a first date between strangers, neither of them puts up his/ her true personality. And that’s only logical because they are trying to give a good impression, so that the other person would be interested in going on second date with them.

It even gets down to the way we eat, most of us eat in a more classy way when eating in the public places. This is partly because we know people are watching us. When in the comfort of our homes we tend to eat with reckless abandon. I know most people can relate with this point because it is true …lols

My second point goes with a question, can you act like you usually do around your friends in an interview in a corporate environment? I guess your answer is as good as mine which is in the negative because you cannot converse with an executive as if he or she is a buddy of yours, unless you are not interested in getting the job.

Lastly, if you are always honest. You might not have a lot of friends because there is the saying that “the truth is bitter.” If truly you are genuine and you tell your friends the truth in all situations then you might lose friends who cannot handle criticism. There are situations when engaging in casual conversation with a friend and your friend might say a joke and it might not be funny but you laugh anyway, or they have a bad hygiene issue and you don’t want to hurt their feeling so you keep it to yourself. All because you don’t want to appear self-serving. Anyway the bottom line is that you can’t always be in your regular state of being. 

If you guys agree with me leave a comment and give examples of occasions when you had to put forth a different personae but if you don’t agree with me. Leave your reasons in the comment box below!